Rough Days Good Mindset...

So I’ve had a couple of rough days with some personal stuff going on that has been bothering me. The good news is that I haven’t let it get me depressed, it has just been difficult. And I realized something, you can be happy even when things are difficult. 

Happiness really is just a state of mind. If there is a reason that you are happy then it is temporary, but if you can be happy when things are bad, that is a different level of happiness. That is true happiness that cannot be negated because of circumstances. 

I read about this phenomenon called the be, do, have paradigm. What it says is that first you need to be something, like happy, then do things that will make you happy, and then you will have happiness for good, or something like that. I have made a decision to be happy regardless of circumstances. 

My life at this moment is by no means even close to being what I want it to be. But I have to work with what I have. And when I look at it from one perspective, I have a lot. When I look at it from a negative perspective I think about all the things I do not have. But none of that matters. What matter is how I am feeling. And I am feeling good. And feelings are the language of the soul.

A lot of this philosophy I got from reading “Conversations with God.” It is a series of books I recommend to everyone, they have changed my life. 

Life is funny, it’s so up and down and left and right, you never know where it’s going to go or what it’s going to do to you. That is why I think it’s important for my core self to be strong. I cannot control the slings and arrows of fate, as Shakespeare put it. But what I can control is my reaction to it all. 

My reaction is that I want things to get better, but I’m willing to work slowly and keep my mindset positive. I know that some people think this positive thinking stuff is bullshit. It sounds hokey sometimes. How are you supposed to be positive when the world is ending, the climate is exploding and we are on the brink of world war three?

The truth is, I understand if you are not positive. It makes sense. However, for me, positivity is better than feeling like shit all the time. How do you decide to be happy? It literally is just a decision. One thing I have learned is that you can take control of your emotions and choose them, just as you choose your thoughts. It’s a difficult process but it is one that can be achieved. 

Look, I don’t know what’s going on in your life. Your world could be ending. And I understand if the idea of feeling positive doesn’t feel practical. I’m just saying give it a try. It could help. It has helped me. 

In my circumstantial life I am actually going through a lot right now. But in my mental state I am doing very well. Part of this is a choice. Maybe the universe is helping me, maybe god is helping me. Maybe it’s just a good time for me to wake up and live my life the way I want to, despite bad things happing all around me.  

I guess the last thing I want to say is that it is possible to change how you feel, I made a choice to feel better and I do. Anyone can do it and it is not easy, but it’s sort of easy as well. It’s just a choice, but you have to be strong about it. 

Thank you for reading this by the way, listening to me philosophize about myself and life in general. It is very therapeutic for me to write this and it is wonderful to know someone is reading and listening. Thank you.

nina